Do Women Still Really Like Bad Boys?

There has always been a concept floating around that women really like bad boy types. The sweet and kind nerdy guy usually gets overlooked for the rough and ready biker dude who treats her like crap. Not only that, the women make excuses for these bad guys and accept just about any bad behavior that the guy is willing to throw her way.

Is this a concept that is still valid? In many ways the answer is yes. But it is a contradiction to what women say that they want. They claim that they do not want to be attracted to the bad guy but the nice guy may seem to be too nice. It is not their fault, it is the women who don’t feel that they deserve to be treated well. It is a contradiction that many women don’t even understand fully themselves.

crazy-stupid-loveIn the movie Crazy, Stupid, Love, Ryan Gosling’s character is a major player. He dictates the entire scenario and totally controls the conversation and what happens afterwards when he takes his prey home to act out his Dirty Dancing move. The women fly by and he is unmoved and unattached until Emma Stone is the one women who is not impressed by him at all. In fact, her heart belongs to a geek played by singer Josh Grobin.

When Grobin tells her he isn’t ready for their relationship to go further she is appalled and literally runs into the arms of Gosling. She doesn’t let him get away with anything and as it turns out, he becomes a good guy who finally finds real love.

The real issue is not that women still like bad boys, it is do you want a woman who doesn’t care how she is treated by a man? If you do then you are not looking for a solid relationship but are using this to serve your own needs sexually or because of control issues you may have. This is not a judgement call, it just means you are not ready to commit to a long lasting relationship. When you are ready you will know it.

If you are ready, and you are a nice guy, don’t be discouraged if you feel that a woman you are interested in is not giving you a second thought. Move on. The right woman will recognize you for your true traits and be attracted to you for all the right reasons. Because of the competition between women, many of them are willing to put up with more than they should because they don’t want to be alone.

If you are a nice guy, and you attract a woman who recognizes that, you will be entering into a relationship where two people can work as a team, each one recognizes and respects the strengths of the other, and each can complement the other’s weaknesses. It is how we learn from each other and grow. Don’t even try to aspire to be a bad boy to get the girl, be a real man so you can attract a real woman.

Advantages of Cardio Exercise

Cardio exercise is a real fat-burner. If you’re a man who wants to lose weight, you will find that choosing cardio is the key to getting lean. While you’ll need to perform cardio a few times a week in order to burn enough calories to lose weight, sticking to this type of schedule should pay off in terms of creating big fitness improvements.

Advantages of Cardio Exercise (2)It’s actually possible to change your physique dramatically with cardio exercise, such as running, swimming or aerobics. During this form of exercise, your heart rate will rise and this increased heart rate will benefit you in many ways. For example, it will improve your circulation, which is great for your heart and your sexual performance.

In case you didn’t know, erectile dysfunction is often triggered by poor circulation of blood to the penis. Although many men when they get ED, automatically reach out for Viagra, the simple solution that works so well.  The fact is that adding cardio to your weekly routine will definitely improve your circulation and may help you avoid ED in the first place.

How to Begin Cardio

Do some warm-up stretches in order to prepare for cardio exercises, such as running. Your goal should be to heat up your muscles with a mind to preventing athletic strains. There are lots of warm-up routines online – find an instructional video in order to learn exactly how to prepare for this form of exercise!

Once you’ve warmed up, you should know that it’s ok to go easy on yourself at first. If you’re out of shape, twenty or thirty minutes of cardio should be enough to get the ball rolling. When you keep at it, you’ll find that you develop more endurance over time. This will be a sign that cardio is working!

Change it up in order to keep things interesting or stick with one preferred form of exercise. It’s really up to you how you work out. You may benefit from targeting certain areas of your body with weight lifting, in addition to doing your fat-burning cardio workouts.

Weight lifting is a form of non-cardio resistance exercise and choosing it will help you to build muscle quickly. Many men swear by weights as using them allows them to develop muscle definition which is sexy and impressive. To get more benefits from weight lifting, consider using protein powder supplements and/or Creatine powder supplements.

Now that you have the inside scoop on how to get fit with cardio, you’ll be ready to get your best body ever!

Are you Sexually Compatible?

You have met the woman of your dream. She is beautiful, funny, and everything you were looking for in a mate. But are you compatible in bed? This is an important part of any good relationship but it doesn’t have to be a complete matchup. There should be enough give and take to compromise and meet in the middle. The thing is you have to decide which things are deal breakers for you and the same on her end. If you don’t address these issues now, you are just creating a justifiable reason to seek sexual comfort elsewhere in the future.

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You can’t make a decision if you are sexually compatible when you first become involved because sex has just as much to do with trust and love than it does with technique and stamina. When you love someone the sensation is that much more emphasized, it seems to have more meaning, and your feelings of love seem to wash completely over you adding to the already great feelings you are experiencing through sexual relations.

But there are things that you need to consider and decide how the two of you are going to deal with them if you plan on staying together. Everyone is entitled to having their needs met so the way that you compromise so you each get what you want is important. The way you negotiate this issue will certainly let you know how future negotiations regarding other issues will play out.

If she is a cuddler and you are not, you both need to decide how important this issue is. Maybe she doesn’t need to spoon every single time you have sex and maybe you don’t have to roll over and fall asleep after every sexual romp.

Most women like foreplay a lot more than men. This is another area that you will need to creatively address. Maybe you can get a Kama Sutra book and practice different ways to start the act of foreplay together. You can make it exciting and fun instead of boring and demanding.

A major issue will have to do with oral sex – who wants it, who doesn’t, who wants to orchestrate it, and again, who doesn’t. Every issue that you have to address regarding sex you have to realize has to really do with everyone you have ever had sex with up until now. If one person made a remark about something you did in the midst of passion that made you feel uncomfortable chances are you haven’t done it again. But how would you know if this particular person wouldn’t be the one person who would have loved it?

So just agree that this is an extremely personal and intimate area of give and take. It will determine your entire future with this person. If you feel the need to work with a sexual therapist you would be smart to start sessions right away. It will help you to work together and it will be the one place where you will look forward to your homework assignments.

Speaking of the past, even though you can’t help but carry it with you because it has made you, good or bad, the lover you are today, try not to compare or make comments with any kind of judgement attached. Everyone is different and everyone has their own moves. When you really care about someone and even are experiencing growing feelings of love for this person, handle with care. Sex is an area that everyone wants to be good at but few are willing to find out how to do just that. With all of the changes in the world many people are still embarrassed about sex.

Try to maintain a good and honest level of communication with each other. Be willing to learn new things together, this will bring you closer and you will be creating new experiences that will soon become fond memories: “Remember when we got that book and tried to…” Any way that you can expand your sexual relationship together will be a good thing. It is a relationship that you will only have uniquely with this person so cherish every moment.